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Category: 🍏 Life
Tips & habits to make your life better
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Pygmalion Effect
Positively influence other people's lives by telling them you believe in them, you think they are a good person, they possess particular good qualities, and you expect they will perform well because they have the ability to do so.
- The Pygmalion effect is a psychological phenomenon in which high expectations lead to improved performance in a given area and low expectations lead to worse.
- It is named after the Greek myth of Pygmalion, the sculptor who fell so much in love with the perfectly beautiful statue he created that the statue came to life.
- According to the Pygmalion effect, the targets of the expectations internalize their positive labels, and those with positive labels succeed accordingly.
- A similar process works in the opposite direction in the case of low expectations.
- The idea behind the Pygmalion effect is that increasing the leader's expectation of the follower's performance will result in better follower performance.
- Within sociology, the effect is often cited with regard to education and social class.
Use Text Files For Tasks
Consider using simple text files to help you get things done and keep track of your tasks, todo lists, projects, and goals, instead of using a complicated tasks app.
- While I love the apps mentioned above, I personally look for super simple.
- So I’ve settled on a setup taken from Gina and Adam’s articles on Lifehacker (read the tutorials: Geek to Live and Hack Attack).
- Text files: Basically, I organize my tasks in a series of text files.
- That’s because they’re super simple, easy to manipulate, and small.
Amazing Mac apps for getting things done (plus a custom-rigged setup) - Zen Habits
Want What You Get
Success is getting what you want. Happiness is wanting what you get. - Dale Carnegie
Adjust The Action Steps
When it is obvious that the goals cannot be reached, don't adjust the goals, adjust the action steps. - Confucius
Enjoy The Journey
Focus on the journey, not the destination. Joy is found not in finishing an activity but in doing it. - Greg Anderson
Occam's Razor
The solution or explanation with the fewest amount of steps or assumptions should often be preferred in order to simplify the solution down to its essential factor or factors.
- In philosophy, Occam's razor (also spelled Ockham's razor or Ocham's razor; Latin: novacula Occami) is the problem-solving principle that recommends searching for explanations constructed with the smallest possible set of elements.
- It is also known as the principle of parsimony or the law of parsimony (Latin: lex parsimoniae).
- Attributed to William of Ockham, a 14th-century English philosopher and theologian, it is frequently cited as "Entia non sunt multiplicanda praeter necessitatem", which translates as "Entities must not be multiplied beyond necessity", although Occam never used these exact words.
- Popularly, the principle is sometimes inaccurately paraphrased as "The simplest explanation is usually the best one."
- This philosophical razor advocates that when presented with competing hypotheses about the same prediction, one should prefer the one that requires the fewest assumptions and that this is not meant to be a way of choosing between hypotheses that make different predictions.
Have A Growth Mindset
Have a growth mindset by believing that you can grow, learn new things, improve your skills and knowledge, and realizing that temporary and recurring failure are a necessary part of learning and growing.
- Dweck, like many adults, had learned to hide her frustration and anger, to politely say "I'm not sure I want to play this anymore" instead of knocking over the board.
- She figured the successful kids would be the same - they’d have tactics for coping with failure instead of getting beaten down by it.
- But what she found was radically different.
- The successful kids didn’t just live with failure, they loved it!
- When the going got tough, they didn’t start blaming themselves; they licked their lips and said "I love a challenge."
- They’d say stuff like "The harder it gets the harder I need to try."
Do What You're Afraid To Do
Always do what you are afraid to do. - Ralph Waldo Emerson
Think About Serving People
Stop thinking about making a million dollars and start thinking about serving a million people. - Dharmesh Shah
Be Yourself In The World
To be yourself in a world that is constantly trying to make you something else is the greatest accomplishment. - Ralph Waldo Emerson
Self Fulfilling Prophecy
Your beliefs and thoughts influence your mind and your life, so any expectations you have about your self, your character, your abilities, your goals, and your dreams can and often will come true if you believe they will.
- A self-fulfilling prophecy is a prediction that comes true at least in part as a result of a person's belief or expectation that said prediction would come true.
- In the phenomena, people tend to act the way they have been expected to making the expectations come true.
- Self-fulfilling prophecies are an example of the more general phenomenon of positive feedback loops.
- A self-fulfilling prophecy can have either negative or positive outcomes.
- Merely applying a label to someone or something can affect the perception of the person/thing and create a self-fulfilling prophecy.
Follow Your Dreams And Passions
Live your life by being true to yourself and following your dreams and passions, in order to make your life and the lives of others better and happier, instead of only doing things that other people want or expect you to do.
- I wish I'd had the courage to live a life true to myself, not the life others expected of me. This was the most common regret of all.
- When people realise that their life is almost over and look back clearly on it, it is easy to see how many dreams have gone unfulfilled.
- Most people had not honoured even a half of their dreams and had to die knowing that it was due to choices they had made, or not made.
- It is very important to try and honour at least some of your dreams along the way.
- From the moment that you lose your health, it is too late.
- Health brings a freedom very few realise, until they no longer have it.
Music Genres List
- Party - Electronic, Dance, Dance Rock, Ska, Disco, Electronica, House, EDM
- Energy - Hard Rock, Blues Rock, Alt Rock, Punk Rock, Classic Rock, Metal
- Groovy - Rhythm & Blues, Funk, Hip Hop, Rap, World, Latin, Psych Rock, Jam Rock
- Lively - Adult Rock, Folk, Pop, Country, Britpop, New Wave, Progressive, Art
- Chill - Downtempo, Trip Hop, Chillout, Lofi, Jazz, Soul, Psychedelic, Dream
- Relax - Singer, Songwriter, Ambient, Easy, Blues, Lounge, Soft Rock, Soft Pop
Lift Up People's Spirits
Strong people don't put others down. They lift them up. - Michael P. Watson
Follow A Framework And A Dream
You don't have to be a genius or a visionary or even a college graduate to be successful. You just need a framework and a dream. - Michael Dell
Give Praise More Than Punishment
A drop of honey catches more flies than a gallon of gall. - Abraham Lincoln
Personal Values List
- Believe - Believe in yourself and think positive
- Journey - Enjoy the journey and live for today
- Growth - Continue to grow and be a lifelong learner
- Courage - Face your fears, take risks, learn from mistakes
- Content - Be content and grateful for what you have
- Resilient - Be resilient and remember problems are temporary
- Acceptance - Accept the world and yourself as you are
- Honesty - Be honest and express your real thoughts
Praise Before Negative Feedback
Give people sincere praise about something they have done well or that you appreciate about them before giving them negative feedback or an idea for something they could change or do differently.
- "Sandwich every bit of criticism between two heavy layers of praise."
- One well known strategy for feedback is the “criticism sandwich,” popularized by the above quote from cosmetics maven Mary Kay Ash.
- In the sandwich, you begin with praise, address the problem, and follow up with more praise.
- In fact, the more of the conversation you can frame positively, the more likely your recipient is to be in the right frame of mind to make the change you’re looking for.
How to Give and Receive Feedback at Work: The Psychology of Criticism - Buffer
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