Have a growth mindset by believing that you can grow, learn new things, improve your skills and knowledge, and realizing that temporary and recurring failure are a necessary part of learning and growing.
- Dweck, like many adults, had learned to hide her frustration and anger, to politely say "I'm not sure I want to play this anymore" instead of knocking over the board.
- She figured the successful kids would be the same - they’d have tactics for coping with failure instead of getting beaten down by it.
- But what she found was radically different.
- The successful kids didn’t just live with failure, they loved it!
- When the going got tough, they didn’t start blaming themselves; they licked their lips and said "I love a challenge."
- They’d say stuff like "The harder it gets the harder I need to try."