Category: 📁 Health Tips

Cultivate a positive environment by reading and listening to more positive information and entertainment sources, and choosing to spend time around positive people.

• Who you choose to spend your time with and the input you get from further away like the TV, the internet and magazines will have a huge effect on your outlook.
• To be able to stay positive it is essential to have influences in your life that support you and lift you up instead of dragging you down.
• So carefully consider what you let into your mind.

How to stay positive: 11 Smart habits - Positivity Blog

Remember everyone is emotional and people are all going through the ups and downs of life, so try not to take it personally when people get angry, and try to comfort or support others when they are in a bad mood.

• Perhaps this is an exaggeration.
• But the core of the message is that people tend to have stronger feelings about something than they let on.
• People who regularly have outbursts of anger, depression or flamboyant enthusiasm are generally frowned upon in most cultures.
• This especially applies to men (for women trying to figure us out).
• The application of this rule is to not assume everything is fine just because someone isn’t having a nervous breakdown.
• We all have our individual problems, angst and upsets that are normally contained.

The critical 7 rules to understand people - Scott H. Young

Find and meet up with people who are doing things that you are interested in doing.

• Find people online doing interesting things, meet up with them in real life.
• Find people who are passionate, who are building things, who are pushing themselves, who dream big, who are mindful and joyful and healthy and friendly and shy and gregarious and adventurous and curious.
• Befriend them. Be there for them. Be helpful. Make them laugh.
• These are your people.

Advice for people in their early 20s - Zen Habits

Consider using simple text files to help you get things done and keep track of your tasks, todo lists, projects, and goals, instead of using a complicated tasks app.

• While I love the apps mentioned above, I personally look for super simple.
• So I’ve settled on a setup taken from Gina and Adam’s articles on Lifehacker (read the tutorials: Geek to Live and Hack Attack).
• Text files: Basically, I organize my tasks in a series of text files.
• That’s because they’re super simple, easy to manipulate, and small.

Amazing Mac apps for getting things done (plus a custom-rigged setup) - Zen Habits

Create daily habits and practices to improve your wellbeing, be happier, achieve goals, and make your dreams come true.

• The only way you can make something stick is to create a habit through daily practice.
• So if you want to exercise, set up 10 minutes every day, at the same time of day, when you’re going to do your yoga or pushups or jogging/walking.
• Put it on the calendar, and make it an unmissable appointment.

Feeling determined to change - Zen Habits

Have a growth mindset by believing that you can grow, learn new things, improve your skills and knowledge, and realizing that temporary and recurring failure are a necessary part of learning and growing.

• Dweck, like many adults, had learned to hide her frustration and anger, to politely say "I'm not sure I want to play this anymore" instead of knocking over the board.
• She figured the successful kids would be the same - they’d have tactics for coping with failure instead of getting beaten down by it.
• But what she found was radically different.
• The successful kids didn’t just live with failure, they loved it!
• When the going got tough, they didn’t start blaming themselves; they licked their lips and said "I love a challenge."
• They’d say stuff like "The harder it gets the harder I need to try."

Believe you can change - Aaron Swartz

Positively influence other people's lives by telling them you believe in them, you think they are a good person, they possess particular good qualities, and you expect they will perform well because they have the ability to do so.

• The Pygmalion effect is a psychological phenomenon in which high expectations lead to improved performance in a given area and low expectations lead to worse.
• It is named after the Greek myth of Pygmalion, the sculptor who fell so much in love with the perfectly beautiful statue he created that the statue came to life.
• According to the Pygmalion effect, the targets of the expectations internalize their positive labels, and those with positive labels succeed accordingly.
• A similar process works in the opposite direction in the case of low expectations.
• The idea behind the Pygmalion effect is that increasing the leader's expectation of the follower's performance will result in better follower performance.
• Within sociology, the effect is often cited with regard to education and social class.

Pygmalion Effect - Wikipedia

Your beliefs and thoughts influence your mind and your life, so any expectations you have about your self, your character, your abilities, your goals, and your dreams can and often will come true if you believe they will.

• A self-fulfilling prophecy is a prediction that comes true at least in part as a result of a person's belief or expectation that said prediction would come true.
• In the phenomena, people tend to act the way they have been expected to making the expectations come true.
• Self-fulfilling prophecies are an example of the more general phenomenon of positive feedback loops.
• A self-fulfilling prophecy can have either negative or positive outcomes.
• Merely applying a label to someone or something can affect the perception of the person/thing and create a self-fulfilling prophecy.

Self-fulfilling Prophecy - Wikipedia

• Think and Grow Rich is a classic motivational book.
• Written by Napoleon Hill and inspired by Andrew Carnegie, it was published in 1937 at the end of the Great Depression.
• In his introduction, Hill refers to the "Carnegie Secret", a conception which he reports is the foundation of all success and appears to be the premise of the book.
• Hill promises to indirectly describe this "secret" in every chapter, but never state it plainly, believing the use of the secret is only available to those who possess a "readiness" for it, a disposition Hill describes as essential to the concept itself.

Napoleon Hill talks about "The Secret" to Think & Grow Rich - Napoleon Hill - YouTube

Live your life by being true to yourself and following your dreams and passions, in order to make your life and the lives of others better and happier, instead of only doing things that other people want or expect you to do.

• I wish I'd had the courage to live a life true to myself, not the life others expected of me. This was the most common regret of all.
• When people realise that their life is almost over and look back clearly on it, it is easy to see how many dreams have gone unfulfilled.
• Most people had not honoured even a half of their dreams and had to die knowing that it was due to choices they had made, or not made.
• It is very important to try and honour at least some of your dreams along the way.
• From the moment that you lose your health, it is too late.
• Health brings a freedom very few realise, until they no longer have it.

Top 5 regrets of the dying - Huffington Post

"Don't criticize, condemn, or complain." - Dale Carnegie

• Criticism is futile because it puts a person on the defensive and usually makes him strive to justify himself.
• Criticism is dangerous, because it wounds a person's precious pride, hurts his sense of importance, and arouses resentment.
• Instead of condemning people, let's try to understand them.
• Let's try to figure out why they do what they do.
• That's a lot more profitable and intriguing than criticism; and it breeds sympathy, tolerance and kindness.
• "To know all is to forgive all."

How To Win Friends And Influence People - Goodreads

Give people sincere praise about something they have done well or that you appreciate about them before giving them negative feedback or an idea for something they could change or do differently.

• "Sandwich every bit of criticism between two heavy layers of praise."
• One well known strategy for feedback is the “criticism sandwich,” popularized by the above quote from cosmetics maven Mary Kay Ash.
• In the sandwich, you begin with praise, address the problem, and follow up with more praise.
• In fact, the more of the conversation you can frame positively, the more likely your recipient is to be in the right frame of mind to make the change you’re looking for.

How to Give and Receive Feedback at Work: The Psychology of Criticism - Buffer

Choose to be happy with your current situation and life, as research has shown happiness may come down to your attitude and perception, not our faulty estimation of what we think we want, even big changes like getting a dream job, goal, partner, or money.

• Dan Gilbert, author of Stumbling on Happiness, challenges the idea that we'll be miserable if we don't get what we want.
• Our "psychological immune system" lets us feel truly happy even when things don't go as planned.

The Surprising Science Of Happiness - Dan Gilbert - YouTube